How to train hair

Hey Y'all
I don't know if I asked this question before or not but How cant I get my hair to lay down. I've been wearing a puff for over a year now and i would love to change my style but even when i twist my hair forward ,it's standing up or going back by morning. I've been twisting it back all this time because I was gonna be pulling it back anyway. Now i want to change my style and it won't lay down. can y'all help a sister out ?

start twist in the direction u want your hair to flow just keep in mind it may take a little time because your hair has memory